DEAR TRAVELER: You’re welcome. My “input” is to urge you to rethink this. I do NOT recommend that you go to a foreign country and rent a cabin in the middle of nowhere with someone you don’t know because it could be dangerous. What if there is a medical emergency or your companion has misrepresented him- or herself ? Traveling, even with someone you DO know, can present problems unless you have a high degree of compatibility and similar habits. Low-budget tours are available, and I urge you to research them.
DEAR ABBY: A few weeks ago my husband and I were having an argument. He stormed out of the house and was killed in a wreck while talking to his brother on his cellphone.
His family blames me for arguing with him. While I feel sad that the last thing we did was argue, I feel his brother should shoulder some of the blame because he was on the cellphone with him, which is illegal in our state.
Luckily, no one else was hurt in the crash, but I am very hurt that “John’s” family is so angry at me. Please remind folks not to drive while on a cellphone.
IDAHO WIDOW
DEAR WIDOW: Please accept my sympathy for the tragic loss of your husband. It is important you understand that your former inlaws are angry at the fact that he is dead, and are looking for someone other than him to blame for their pain. If your brother-in-law knew John was on his cellphone while driving, then I’m sure he carries some guilt about it. But the fault lies with your husband, rest his angry soul.
P.S. If your letter serves as a reminder to readers not to use a cellphone — or text — while driving, his death will not have been in vain.
Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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