I dated a musician for 16 years and I do not want a relationship with another one. I’m pretending to be supportive because I don’t want to be another woman telling him what to do or stifling his dreams. Inside I am dreading it. I become physically ill when I think of losing another man to music.
On the other hand, I can’t imagine my life without him. Should I continue to pretend to support him and hope he fails, or let him know that I don’t want to be with a musician?
OUT OF TUNE IN
DAYTON, OHIO
DEAR OUT OF TUNE: It is in neither of your best interests for you to continue lying to him because the truth will come to light eventually. He is not the person you dated for 16 years, so let him pursue his dream. The odds of a 53-year-old man becoming an overnight national sensation are long, but after 31 years of misery with his ex, if he can enjoy some success on the local level, please don’t begrudge him.
Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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