DEAR HARRIETTE: Though the warmer months are behind us, I still want to work on shedding a couple of pounds so I feel lighter. I do not have a lot of extra time on my hands, but I try to exercise frequently. Do you have any tips and tricks on how to maintain a healthy lifestyle? I try to walk as often as I can, but I may need more help on the nutritional side of weight loss. – Bikini Body, New Haven, Connecticut

DEAR BIKINI BODY: You are speaking the language of so many of us these days. Busyness often gets in the way of fitness. And even those folks who do exercise a lot may not be doing enough if what they are putting into their bodies is not serving them well. Ideally, you may want to have a consultation with a nutritionist who can review what you ingest and make specific recommendations for what to eliminate and what is healthy to eat as you work to shed pounds. Another option is to join Weight Watchers. Many people have used this affordable program to lose weight and keep it off. In general, eliminating sugar and reducing carbohydrates are always recommended for weight loss and overall good health. Get the support you need to set you on the right track.

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have liked a boy I’ll call “Jacob” for years now. Recently, his friend “Daniel” developed feelings for me. I really want a chance with Jacob, and I am annoyed that Daniel’s feelings may have instilled some sort of “bro code” between the two friends. I do not want Jacob to write me off because of Daniel’s crush. Is there anything I can say or do to get Daniel off my back and get Jacob to like me? – Crushing Crushes, Detroit

DEAR CRUSHING CRUSHES: Does Jacob have any idea that you have feelings for him? Given that your crush has lasted for years without consequence, it is likely that either Jacob does not know, or he is not interested. Either possibility puts you in an awkward situation.

If you want to go for it and make sure Jacob knows of your interest, tell him. Directly and privately confess your interest in him, and tell him you would like to give the two of you a chance to see if there’s a potential relationship worth building. If he says something about Daniel, acknowledge that you know Daniel has recently expressed interest in you, but your interest is, and has always been, in him. If you are clear that you do not want to date Daniel regardless of what Jacob decides, say as much.

Be prepared that Jacob may not share your interest. This is important because you have to manage your feelings. Given that you have been friendly for a long time without any shared sparks flying, it could be that this is a one-sided experience. You need to be ready to walk away from him with dignity if he shows no interest.

— Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.