Melissa and Todd Allen didn’t set out to become foster parents, but they were always aware of the possibility. It was never a question of whether they would open their home to children in need, only when. Since becoming licensed with Spurwink in late 2022, the Allens have embraced their role with heart, humility and a fierce commitment to doing what is best for their kids. 

With a background in therapeutic foster care, and years spent supporting youth through the Youth Leadership Advocacy Team (YLAT), Melissa was deeply familiar with the challenges and rewards of foster care. Still, it wasn’t until two sisters in their community needed a safe home that Melissa and Todd made the decision to step in, not as professionals but as parents. 

“We didn’t plan on fostering,” Melissa shared. “But when the need was right in front of us, we just couldn’t say no.” That act of compassion quickly turned into something more permanent.

The couple then opened their hearts to a weekend respite placement and quickly knew that child was part of their family too. 

“If we’re going to do this, we’re going to do it with our whole hearts,” Todd said. “These kids aren’t our guests. They’re our family.” 

When asked to describe fostering with Spurwink in one word, they each light up: “Supportive,” shared Melissa. “Fantastic,” Todd added. “It’s really amazing when it’s done right, the difference you can make.”

Parenting, especially foster parenting, is never easy. But the Allens don’t view themselves as heroes.

“We’re just parents,” shared Melissa. “We’re parenting, loving and giving our kids the safety they deserve.” With several children, both biological and adoptive, under their roof, plus a few cats and dogs, their house is busy, joyful and full of love. 

What stands out most is the way Melissa and Todd talk about belonging. Whether it’s a child choosing to use their last name or calling them “mom” and “dad” for the first time, the Allens recognize the quiet power of feeling chosen and safe. 

“It’s the everyday things, sharing jokes at the dinner table, getting a hug after a long day, that shows us this is working,” said Melissa. 

The couple credits Spurwink with giving them the tools and support they need to succeed. 

“Consistency matters,” said Todd. “Our case manager has been with us since day one. That kind of support helps us show up for our kids every day.” 

Their advice to prospective foster parents is as follows: “Build your village,” Melissa urged. “And communicate constantly with your partner, with your kids, and with the system. Be open and trust yourself.” 

For the Allens, foster care isn’t a job or a temporary arrangement, it’s a calling. 

“There’s always been a sense that we were meant to have children in our lives,” Todd reflected. “Whether they came to us by birth or not, this is where they belong.”

To learn more about fostering with Spurwink, visit spurwink.org/foster-care/.